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Job: Respect ControllerRef

**What this PR does / why we need it**:

This is part of the completion of the [ControllerRef](https://github.com/kubernetes/community/blob/master/contributors/design-proposals/controller-ref.md) proposal. It brings Job into full compliance with ControllerRef. See the individual commit messages for details.

**Which issue this PR fixes**:

This ensures that Job does not fight with other controllers over control of Pods.

Ref: #24433

**Special notes for your reviewer**:

**Release note**:

```release-note
Job controller now respects ControllerRef to avoid fighting over Pods.
```
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