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Re-enable lease reconciler, fix shutdown race

Fixes #63378
Fixes #57617

* Fixes the openapi script to wait for the apiserver on shutdown (like all the other scripts do)
* Fixes the apiserver shutdown to not hang forever if the kubernetes service reconciler cannot persist to etcd
* Readds https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/pull/58474 to make the default the lease reconciler

```release-note
kube-apiserver: the default `--endpoint-reconciler-type` is now `lease`. The `master-count` endpoint reconciler type is deprecated and will be removed in 1.13.
```