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Add flags for alternative API and discovery ports

**What this PR does / why we need it**:

We had many issues reported due to the fact that we are using port 443 by default, and we should allow users to override whatever defaults we pick. This doesn't touch on `localhost:8080` yet, which should just generally get rid of.

**Which issue this PR fixes**: fixes #34311 #34307 #33638

**Special notes for your reviewer**: cc @pires 

**Release note**:
```release-note
Add `kubeadm` flags `--api-port` and `--discovery-port`, change default API port to 6443
```