Automatic merge from submit-queue (batch tested with PRs 38278, 37770)

Refactor REST storage to use generic defaults

This removes the repetition in the REST storage builders by moving the logic to `restoptions.ApplyOptions`.  `registry.StorageWithCacher`/`generic.StorageDecorator` no longer assume that they can build the `keyFunc` for arbitrary objects.  `restoptions.ApplyOptions` uses the `registry.Store`'s `KeyFunc` for its call to `generic.StorageDecorator`.

```release-note
Cluster federation servers have changed the location in etcd where federated services are stored, so existing federated services must be deleted and recreated. Before upgrading, export all federated services from the federation server and delete the services. After upgrading the cluster, recreate the federated services from the exported data.
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