* Always use static ports for the load-balancers

This fixes an issue where RKE2 kube-proxy daemonset pods were failing to
communicate with the apiserver when RKE2 was restarted because the
load-balancer used a different port every time it started up.

This also changes the apiserver load-balancer port to be 1 below the
supervisor port instead of 1 above it. This makes the apiserver port
consistent at 6443 across servers and agents on RKE2.

Additional fixes below were required to successfully test and use this change
on etcd-only nodes.

* Actually add lb-server-port flag to CLI
* Fix nil pointer when starting server with --disable-etcd but no --server
* Don't try to use full URI as initial load-balancer endpoint
* Fix etcd load-balancer pool updates
* Update dynamiclistener to fix cert updates on etcd-only nodes
* Handle recursive initial server URL in load balancer
* Don't run the deploy controller on etcd-only nodes