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Affinity/Anti-Affinity Optimization of Pod Being Scheduled

**What this PR does / why we need it**:
Following #66948, it was noticed that the applied optimizations for anti-affinity rules lookup of existing pods could be further applied to checking affinity and anti-affinity terms of the Pod being scheduled. This is done by mapping topology pairs to pods that potentially match the pod being scheduled instead of mapping nodes to matching pods, and accordingly the search space is reduced.

**Which issue(s) this PR fixes** *(optional, in `fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...)` format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged)*:
Fixes #67738

**Special notes for your reviewer**:
/sig scheduling
/sig scalability

**Release note**:

```release-note
Improve performance of Pod affinity/anti-affinity in the scheduler
```