Expect OnSocketReady() to cancel events.  If it returns false, the
SocketMonitor may be destructed already.  This fixes a use-after-free
bug in the "httpd" output plugin.

Since we switched from autotools to Meson in commit
94592c14, we don't need to include
`config.h` early to properly enable large file support.  Meson passes
the required macros on the compiler command line instead of defining
them in `config.h`.

This means we can include `config.h` at any time, whenever we want to
check its macros, and there are no ordering constraints.

Only _WIN32 is defined by the compiler, and WIN32 is not standardized
and may be missing.

Closes #169

Migrate callers to GetSocket().Read(), GetSocket.Write(), which is the
same.

Users now have to call Close() explicitly.  This simplifies using the
class, as most users have automatic socket management already, and
Steal() had to be used often.

Now that the remaining known bugs in poll() implementation are fixed,
we can go on without the GLib implementation.

This change adds two configuration options:

  --with-eventloop=[glib|internal|auto]
  --with-pollmethod=[epoll|auto]

First allows switching between GLib event loop and internal one.
Second chooses backend to use for internal event loop.
Conditional compilation symbols are changed accordingly.
Additional helper macro MPD_OPTIONAL_FUNC_NODEF is added as well.

Implement an event loop without GLib.

Merge with CommitEventFlags().

Allow creating a closed SocketMonitor instance.