Expect OnSocketReady() to cancel events.  If it returns false, the
SocketMonitor may be destructed already.  This fixes a use-after-free
bug in the "httpd" output plugin.

Closes https://github.com/MusicPlayerDaemon/MPD/issues/510

.. and not "UNIX domain socket.  Be consistent about the naming.

This replaces the old `dead` flag which was unreliable; it was `false`
if the EventThread was not yet started, which could cause deadlocks in
BlockingCall().

Since we switched from autotools to Meson in commit
94592c14, we don't need to include
`config.h` early to properly enable large file support.  Meson passes
the required macros on the compiler command line instead of defining
them in `config.h`.

This means we can include `config.h` at any time, whenever we want to
check its macros, and there are no ordering constraints.

MPD's default is 100ms, which is too long for the real-time I/O
thread.  The OutputThread has 100us, but the real-time I/O thread
might have tighter deadlines.

This change has currently no effect (I believe), because nobody uses
timers on the RTIO thread.

So long, autotools!  This is my last MPD related project to migrate
away from it.  It has its strengths, but also very obvious weaknesses
and weirdnesses.  Today, many of its quirks are not needed anymore,
and are cumbersome and slow.  Now welcome our new Meson overlords!

The new implementation is copied from another project and is
BSD-licensed.  It is exception-safe and can parse IPv6 scope ids with
interface names.

first call fchmod() to prevent TOCTTOU, then apply permissions using
chmod()

This call was broken since commit
9a5bcc6d because the
`UniqueSocketDescriptor` had already been moved.

The normal I/O event thread can have a large latency, e.g. when
libgnutls loads all TLS CA certificates for a https connect.  This
makes it unreliable for the ALSA I/O notifications, and causes ring
buffer xruns.  To avoid interfering with high latency events such as
CURL's, we move the ALSA I/O events to a separate I/O thread which
also obtains real-time scheduling (if possible).

Closes #221

Works around a deadlock bug which happens when waiting for an
EventLoop which isn't running anymore.