This makes the update code thread-safe and doesn't penalize
the playlist code by complicating it with complicated and
error-prone locks (and the associated overhead, not everybody
has a thread-implementation as good as NPTL).

The update task blocks during the delete; but the update task is
a slow task anyways so we can block w/o people caring too much.

This was also our only freeSong call site, so remove that
function.

Note that deleting entire directories is not fully thread-safe,
yet; as their traversals are not yet locked.