This commit reimplements the core of the "single" mode.  Instead of
doing the detection in the playlist code from the outside, it is moved
to the player thread, which gets a new option called "border_pause".
It will now pause playback exactly at the beginning of the new song,
making the feature more reliable.

Now that the player thread knows what will happen, it can suppress
cross-fading.

Fixes mantis tickets 0003055 and 0003166.